Do Bloggers Play It Safe Too Often?

Posted April 25, 2015 by Marsha in Discussion Post / 6 Comments

book dream handI just wrote a brilliant post (if I do say so myself) — and put it back in the maybe, some day file.  Because I second guessed myself.  I hate when I do that.

I noticed something recently on one of the large, anyone can drop in a review places – and it bothered me.  So I wrote a post about my feelings… and then I second guessed myself.

How often have you second guessed a post on your blog that wasn’t a review piece, but an opinion of your own?  Are you brave and force through no matter what any other opinions might be?  Or do you step back, take a second look and think… maybe I shouldn’t say this.

I want to be the first but more often am the second.  And really, it’s just my opinion – it’s not like it’s brain surgery if I make a misstep someone dies.  It’s a blog post, a discussion – my own opinion what do you think – kind of blog post.  Yet I hesitate.

I think I hesitate because this isn’t a “big” blog.  I mean, I’m relatively new, what right do I have to upset the apple cart.  Do I really want to take the risk of losing readership when I’m still growing the blog?  Or maybe I should be more concerned with being true to my own self and opinions on my own blog.  Again, it is my opinion – if no one else agrees or even disagrees within 24 hours a hundred other new posts will have taken over my one opinion’s spot.

So why can’t I be braver?  Why can’t I point out something that I see as wrong, instead of worrying about the opinion of others?  I hate second guessing myself.  And it needs to stop.

What about you?  Do you hesitate?  Do you post what is on your mind no matter what anyone else might think?  Brave or Safe?



6 responses to “Do Bloggers Play It Safe Too Often?

  1. I have one discussion post that I’m afraid to write. I haven’t written it yet because I don’t want to offend anybody. Logically, I know that it probably won’t be offensive, but I’m still afraid to do it.
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    • Marcy

      I understand exactly what you mean – and I’m even today struggling with that so far non-post of mine.

      I believe I’m going to take that post and re-work it, be certain to give arguments for both sides and see what happens. Because it still matters to me.

      It’s hard being brave in this venue. But I am coming to think that sometimes we just have to be the one to at least start the conversation.

      I hope you write your post – I for one, will read it with interest. All of our opinions matter. And I don’t want to be afraid any more.

      Thank you so much for commenting.

  2. Confidence comes with experience I think. For me at this point if I think it I say it on the blog. I’ve found with doing discussions or letting my opinion known that a LOT of other bloggers feel the same way but just didn’t want to say anything for whatever reason. I like getting those things out in the open and having discussion about the things that are bothering me about our reader community. If someone doesn’t like my opinion I’m okay with them not following the blog if they feel that strongly. If that’s the case they probably weren’t following the right blog to begin with, ya know?

    Sometimes you just have to jump in and post it. As long as you’re not being a raving jerk about it and are putting out a level headed argument/discussion I think it’s a good thing. YOu could always have a reader friend check out those posts first and see what they think?
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    • Marcy

      Anna, can I be you when I grow up? (that’s not meant creepy it’s a compliment, honest).

      I see reviewers doing two specific things on Goodreads and especially on Amazon reviews that just sits so badly with me that I want to talk about it – cos maybe I’m the crazy one.

      And you’re right. You are absolutely correct in everything you wrote in your comment. And I had agreed with it all up until the time to push publish when I chickened out.

      As I said earlier, I’m going to rewrite the post (because it was a flash annoyance type of post) – think it out, give arguments on both sides and see where the chips land. Because I believe it’s something that needs to be addressed.

      And in the end, if I pride myself on not compromising my book reviews, what I think, you read.. then I shouldn’t be afraid to voice my opinion. You’re right, if someone doesn’t like it – it’s not the end of the world. Life as we know it will continue.

      Thank you.

  3. I hesitate to write any discussion posts. I guess I’m afraid to post something that no one cares about and just never get any comments. I also hesitate occasionally to voice opinions that I know aren’t popular. For the most part I’m pretty straight-forward in my reviews but I have one review that I still haven’t written because I’m worried about backlash. I would like to review The Fault in Our Stars, which I did not like, but I feel like I might get negative attention from that and, like you, I’m not a big blog with a dedicated readerbase.

    I need to make myself post more posts that aren’t just reviews and memes. I want to say a lot more about real topics but it’s intimidating to voice those types of things, verses reviews of books which everyone can relate to. I’ll try harder in the future. And I wish you luck too…And I want to read your amazing post that you shelved! 🙂 This post was great, btw.
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    • Marcy

      Cayt, I know exactly how you feel. I have hesitated and admitted that publicly – and what I got back have been lovely, understanding, helpful comments from nice folks like you.

      I think Anna, from Herding Cats & Burning Soup said it in her comment the best – as long as we aren’t being jerks, and we have a logical argument for our views we need to brave up and speak up. If someone no longer follows our blog because of one post – then maybe they are following the wrong blog.

      I am working on rewriting that shelved post and have a few ideas for other ones as well. I’m hoping to get that post up later this week. I don’t want to worry about what someone else thinks anymore. My (and your) opinions have value, but they are only opinions we should feel free to voice them as long as we are not hurting anyone. And not everyone loves the same novels – I think you should go ahead and voice the reasons why you didn’t like that one. You might be surprised to find that other people didn’t either – they just didn’t want to be the first ones to say it.

      I truly believe, if at the end of the day, we are proud of whatever we’ve written, purposefully harmed no one and were true to ourselves… it makes for a happier person and a more open and honest blog.

      It is what I’m striving for. I wish you nothing but the best no matter what you do. Just enjoy this, it’s supposed to be fun. Be yourself and those that enjoy the you that is shared will stick around – don’t worry about the rest. And yes, I’m taking my own advice. 🙂